Tuesday, 6 January 2009

True love, passion does last a lifetime

True love and passion is hardly ever dented by ravages of age, says a new study based on brain scans.

Brain scans of couples who have been together for 20 years prove that they are really capable of loving each other with the same intensity and passion as they felt in their initial relationship, until their last breath.

These scans showed that a tenth of them showed a burst of pleasure-boosting dopamine while looking at the photos of their loved ones, the same chemical reaction that young couples exhibit in the first flush of lust.

It contradicts a previous study suggesting that passionate love peters out in 15 months, after going through a roller coaster ride, called 'limerence' in psychological parlance.

Stony Brook University (SBU) researchers who conducted the latest study said that when limerence matures, it permits couples to enjoy "intensive companionship and sexual liveliness".

Simply stated, they are able to sustain the same level of romance and passion decades later.

Researchers concentrated on factors like passion, romantic love and lust. They nicknamed such couples "swans" because swans, voles and grey foxes stay paired for a lifetime.

"The findings go against the traditional view of romance - that it drops off sharply in the first decade - but we are sure it's real," said Arthur Aron, SBU psychologist.

Billy and Michelle Jordon, one such pair of 'swans', who live in California, still amaze friends and acquaintances by holding hands all the time. "It comes very naturally," said Michelle, 59.

original post: http://www.dnaindia.com/report.asp?newsid=1219130

Uplifting news, I almost lost my hope to ever have an opportunity to experience something like this, especially now, when people come together for convenience (including financial) or just simply fearing to be alone or single in the eyes of friends, but the study shows that true love does exist and lasts forever. It's better to wait for whatever time needed for that right person, rather than keep getting involved in some lightweight relationships only to find out they were not true. One of the tests to see if that's the right person before anything happens is trying to ask yourself, could imagine this other person with you in less romantic situation, like war zone, or would actually feel good and "love to" cook him or her breakfast (even if you don't like to cook) or have kids may be? To me, there is no point in hanging out with a man for the sake of it, even if I don't get sex for years, I'd rather wait for that special person to share all kinds of good moments together. Sex is a form of expressing love not the goal on it's own. True love is when you want to start a family with the person meaning functioning as one, feeling his/her sorrows and happiness.

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